For this post, we enter the wonderful dating/relationship world. People talk about dating ALL the time. One thing i have noticed, when people were younger...even present times, men/women all have a certain type of individual they are attracted to. What attracts you to someone? Do you feel you are attracted to someone based on what you like or is it more of society's influence which bases your judgement?
If someone wanted to talk to you which was not in your attraction lines, but had every characteristic you were looking for, would turn the person down or accept them for who they are? Maybe they were overweight, a different race, complexion difference, etc, is that really important when it comes to finding someone who is perfect for you regardless on the level of attraction?
A woman could tell you all the things she does not like in a man. One would think she wanted a GQ poster boy, a model and downright flawless. Even if she met a "good guy" (I use the term good guy sparingly because there is more to a good guy in which i will get into another post....) but not within her attraction lines, he would get the boot. Ladies want the good guy but all the perfection as stated earlier. There is nothing wrong with that, but you know someone who is or is not right for you. When you still pursue someone who is not right for you but has those preferences of attraction you like, you are in denial of your feelings. Not to mention the guy she is pursuing knows he is attractive by society standards so he knows he can get away with a lot of things. After being played numerous times she goes for the "others", the ones she was not attracted to before...the heavy set guy, a different race, different skin complexion etc. Does attraction vary on situation and experience?
This applies for men as well. (not leaving you guys out..) Guys love looking at women showing pretty much nothing on, it is just a fact. The image of perfection and flawlessness runs through our veins. The video vixens, the porn stars, the curvy bodies, the models, all those images have affected how men look at whats attractive to them. Just like women, some guys say they wont date a plus size woman, a different race, a darker complexion women etc. Men want to walk around with someone beautiful around their arm, Men say they don't want that women with the fake hair, fake this, fake that, but still are attracted to those types because that's what society draws you to like. Their are on TV, magazines, online, social networks, and women try to duplicate that look all the time. As the story goes again they aim for those model like video vixen women. they can't find them because they do not exist. Then, men go for the woman they can bring home to mom, cook them a good meal, and take care of them....the quiet down to earth woman.
Who you like is who you like. Its not my place to tell you whats right or wrong, but my biggest argument is why do people change their preferences on what they like? Why do people say they like a certain type but settle for someone completely different. Does society really have an original impact on what you are attracted to or do people really know what they want and like? Opinions? Comments?
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